It was the best of times. It was the worst of times. These words could well have been written about the holiday season. It can seem like the holiday season is made up of a wreath of special moments and cherished memories intertwined with hurt feelings, misunderstandings, loneliness and tremendous frustrations.
People get frustrated, if not downright angry, when their dreams and wishes for the holidays are blocked or if the events unfold contrary to their expectations of how they feel things should be. Tensions within families can run high. Where should we spend the holidays? When and how should the presents be opened? Why should they get to relax while I labor at making preparations? The list of colliding thoughts, values and expectations contributing to the boiling point seems to be nearly endless.
What can you do to improve your holiday experience? Here's a few thoughts appropriate for those who call themselves members of God's family.
1) Do not wait for someone to invite you to their home, invite them to yoursThe Golden Rule encourages us to take the initiative in doing for others what we would like them to do for us. Instead of allowing self-centeredness to swallow up our thoughts, plan how you will be a blessing to others. Luke 6:31
2) Reach out to those who are poor as well as the lonely
While there is no sin involved in inviting those to our parties who have means or who are our friends, we can serve God and model Christian values to our children by reaching out to those who would be unable to return our invitation and to those who need a friend (Luke 14:12-14; Romans 12:16).
3) Forgive the past & let go of previous grievances
Unfinished business swirling up from feelings of past favoritism, resentment over long-standing injustices and just a whole host of other interrelationship matters can sour and destroy time together. God's people are to forgive others. Yes, life can be unfair and others have at times acted out of dark motives as we too are not innocent in all matters. But as children of God, we are to forgive and not bear a grudge against others. (Ephesians 4:32-5:1; Leviticus 19:18) This is not just for their benefit but also for our own well-being.
4) Know how to respond to frustrating situations
While those who demand their rights and feel "I should be able to ____" will only increase the pressure within relationships to the breaking point, the peace maker responds by seeking the well-being of others in the same manner he seeks his own. Perhaps the wisdom of overlooking an offense is needed. Proverbs 12:16 Perhaps there is the need to reevaluate just how important the issue is. A hundred years from now will it really matter if we do it this way or that? Perhaps letting others have their way this time would be an appropriate response. Perhaps there is the need to evaluate my behavioral options in light of whether they would contribute to being appropriate for one serving God or whether they might further the destructive work of Satan.
During this pressure cooker season, we have a wonderful opportunity as God's people to remember what is truly important and strive to bless the lives of others.
Barry Newton, Copyright © 2003
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